I received the following question from Alina, who is following on social media:
“I was raised by my parents in such a way that I was always to be blamed for everything. I absorbed it like a sponge, and it got worse over the years. My husband and children all pointed out to me that everything was happening because of me. That is how I live, blaming myself and thinking about how guilty I am. I am eating myself up today and I cannot get out of this hell. I am still relatively young. I want to live without this pain and guilt. Is it possible to get out of this?”
Of course! It depends on understanding that these states are all sent from the single upper force in existence.
Where Alina pointed out that she got used to being the one to blame, it is untrue that a person is guilty of anything at all. We still need to reach such awareness.
In order for Alina to stop blaming herself, and for us to stop blaming ourselves in general, we need to discover that there is only one force in the world that creates, controls and determines everything.
With such a discovery, we then come to see that we do not act, but this force acts through us. It is the egoistic quality that dwells within us that manipulates us to think that we act in our world. Also, in Alina’s case, she incorrectly claims that her relatives, parents, husband and children act on her. However, it only appears to her that this is the case. Rather, she attracts such relationships to herself, and she is not at all to blame.
Therefore, Alina’s only action is to understand that this is how the upper force works with her, and that it is all the operations of a single force. If she repeatedly turns her states over to the upper force, then she will be able to come closer to the revelation of that force. She will then see that she is guilty of nothing and that only this single upper force acts on her life, and in general throughout reality.
Based on KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman and Semion Vinokur on January 8, 2024. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.
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