It depends on you and not on who you find.
If you like someone as a person and see that they are serious and responsive, then it all depends on you.
Try to treat them as gently as possible, and see if they understand you, and if you begin to feel and support each other. What matters most is mutual support and the need for each other.
You can understand whether or not you are with the right person if you try to be kind, helpful and supportive of them. Then, you will see how that person accordingly reacts, i.e., whether they sincerely and wholeheartedly wish to support and preserve such states or whether they take them for granted, as if they do not matter.
Based on KabTV’s “Blitz of Kabbalah Tips” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman on May 18, 2023. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.