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When you try to “buy” your child with sneakers, tablets, or toys, you miss out the real purchase. You “buy” a child by showing them that you are their friend, that you are on their level. To do so, you must remake yourself, change yourself, often in ways you never imagined. Friendship with a child means you understand them, you are ready to help and support them. Most importantly, that you truly understand them.
Do not overload them with developmental courses, clubs, or constant extracurricular activities. Let them live their childhood organically. This means letting them do what they want, albeit within reasonable limits. Of course, their desires and opinions will largely come from their friends, so they are not entirely their own. But still, they should be encouraged.
I myself grew up surrounded by composers and music. It gave me nothing particularly special, although yes, perhaps I developed an ear for music. Still, even with that, I trust that a child should have freedom of choice.
When it comes to promises, keep your word. Say it once, then do it. Do not avoid promising just to protect yourself from failing; if you want to raise a child properly, you must both promise and fulfill.
Let the child make mistakes, but do not praise the mistake itself. Instead, identify it, fix it, and do so without blame. It is not an accusation, but guidance.
As for “overloving” a child. Indeed, love can get in the way. Excessive love, shown in the wrong place or in the wrong measure, can harm as much as it helps. Everything in education must be measured, balanced, and aligned with the child’s optimal growth.
Based on KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman on August 1, 2025. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.
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