Self-esteem is the starting point from which we shape ourselves, our image, in relation to our goals, our needs, the world, society and ourselves.
Therefore, shaping ourselves in relation to a goal that we envision to ourselves is key here, and self-esteem is an element that we can work with in the process.
In order to develop or boost our self-esteem, we need to
- clarify the goal that we want to reach,
- depict our image or form when we reach such a goal, and then we can
- measure ourselves accordingly and determine whether or not we are on route to its achievement.
We should thus view self-esteem as a means by which we can progress to the goal. We should not feel guilty about any traits that we were born with, but be at peace with them, understanding that we were given exactly the right qualities in order to fully realize ourselves.
Then, we should question what is our correct realization? What image, form and goal should we aspire to? Also, how can we advance toward it?
After clarifying these questions to ourselves, we should be able to discern what should we be content and discontent with about ourselves, and that it is all in order to advance us optimally toward our goal.
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