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What does the fetus feel in its mother’s womb? What does it go through? To what extent do the relationships between its parents affect it?
The fetus is constantly in a kind of struggle, because it has to adapt itself to the conditions of the environment, which is the womb. As much as it grows, this environment changes, and therefore there is an intensive and unceasing process of adaptation and adjustment. Accordingly, the forces of nature operate on it from within and from without, constructing it and shaping a form within it.
If the fetus cannot adapt itself to the new conditions, then a developmental malfunction occurs. From here comes the great concern for the condition of the pregnant woman. She needs everything necessary for the fetus’ proper development in her womb on every level, physical, psychological, and spiritual.
The more the fetus develops, the more it feels a broader environment. Just as we once did not think that plants feel our attitude toward them, and suddenly we discover that they do—that they perceive and respond to what is happening around them—so it is with the fetus.
Therefore, it is important that we nourish the fetus with a warm attitude, with attention, with concern for its well-being, with love. Although we are not accustomed to relating to the period of pregnancy as part of our lives, it certainly is such, and it greatly influences our development.
If we could be sensitive enough, we would even remember ourselves in our mother’s womb, developing stage by stage. Such memory remains within us, in internal systems that we usually do not access.
It is also important to know that everything the mother feels and thinks passes to the fetus. After birth, the baby continues to receive the world through her, smelling and “breathing” through her. She is the mediator between the baby and the wider world. The inner connection between them is preserved throughout, even if one of them passes away.
Now, try to imagine what the fetus feels when the father, for example, yells at the mother or treats her roughly. There are films that document the “storm” that occurs in a person’s brain and nervous system in such a situation. Those same tensions and pressures that arise in the mother are also felt in the fetus, because the two of them constitute one system.
If a father yells at his pregnant wife, the fetus feels his influence as a hostile and threatening source. This is because, when we yell, we harm the environment in which the fetus lives, and it can relate to you only as a negative factor.
Even though the fetus does not understand the verbal content of the yelling, it holds no importance. It is not matter of language, but a matter of a negative influence, against which it must defend itself.
The fetus must defend itself against any negative influence. It becomes forced to neutralize the negative attitude that reaches it, by means of inner resistance to the threat coming from outside. Therefore, a negative attitude toward the environment begins to develop within it, and when this child is born and grows up, the lack of calm that it absorbed already in the womb will become expressed in violent and coarse behavior. They will not know exactly toward whom to direct all the anger within, and therefore they will behave aggressively toward everyone. If the environmental pressure toward their mother was very great, the child will develop a complete lack of self-confidence, and throughout life they will have great difficulty in being independent.
Therefore, there is no choice but to learn how to build corrected relationships. The future of our children depends on such relationships.
Also, if we speak to the contrary, that the father serves as a positive influence upon the pregnant mother, and likewise, upon the fetus, then in such a case the fetus receives an additional force. Its vessels of perception open, and it will indeed develop better. We can perceive such development according to positive and negative influences we experience at any moment in our lives. When we are afraid, we contract and close our senses, wishing to hide. Also, the contrary, when we become treated positively, with love and care, we expand and open up.
With this in mind, I recommend the following thought exercise to help with positive fetal development, to think of ourselves as living in a round and whole system, which includes reality at all of its levels. Everything closes within it together, everything is recorded, which includes every thought, desire, and form of attitude.
In order for our fetus to develop well, to be healthy and whole, we take care that its entire environment will be in peace as well, that the world it will emerge into will be more corrected, with positive relationships, mutual consideration, complementarity, and harmonious connection among everyone.
Moreover, we ourselves begin to practice doing so now, trying to aim so that our every action will advance us toward the form of the perfect human being—a person who has love for others, love of the world.
Based on “New Life 99 – Pregnancy and Birth from the Embryo’s Perspective” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.