We can get the most out of a relationship by first taking into account that we are parts of nature’s interconnected and interdependent system, and that we each have roles toward one another in this system.
That is simply how nature sets us up. We have to accept this as a given and seek how to correctly use this given, i.e. to give each other the opportunity to correct ourselves—to upgrade the way in which we view ourselves and the world as interdependent beings—in order to connect in wholeness and perfection.
In other words, it means that we need to reach a state of ever-increasing love between us. When we aim ourselves at achieving a state of mutual love in the shortest possible way, then it doesn’t matter what we experience on the way there.
Everything is headed toward a final state of love. If it will not happen right now, then it will take place in a few years, and if not in a few years, then in a few incarnations. Therefore, when we enter into a relationship, we should aim at no less than a state of complete and perfect love.
Based on the video “How to Get the Most Out of ANY Relationship” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman, Yael Leshed-Harel and Oren Levi. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.
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