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Although medicine is constantly advancing, from one year to the next, the difficulties in conceiving and maintaining a pregnancy only keep increasing. Why? How did it happen that such a natural process became something so complicated and uncertain, which requires countless efforts, resources, and mental strength? Is there a way to make the whole matter flow more easily?
Among animals everything is simple. During the breeding season they are filled with hormones, and instincts guide them to locate suitable partners. Nature gives commands, and everyone obeys. But with us, the more we develop and the ego of each person grows, the more problems multiply in our human-to-human connections.
These connection problems become expressed in crises in relationships on personal, social, and global scales. Due to such problems, difficulties emerge in finding partners, cultivating partnerships, conceiving, maintaining pregnancy through to birth, then in birth itself, nursing, raising children, and in building a family. Everything begins and ends with the quality of our connections, i.e., between couples, and beyond that, the connection in the general human system.
What is that connection? On nature’s side, we are all connected as a single integral system, a network that includes all human beings, as well as nature’s still, vegetative, and animate levels. When negative charges abound in the network, which people introduce through an egoistic attitude toward one another, malfunctions emerge for us in all areas of life.
Such is the diagnosis of the root cause of our myriad difficulties. Then, even if we invest a great deal in developing aids for conception, for passing pregnancy safely, and for an easy birth, problems will continue to arise with greater and greater intensity. Why? It is because such solutions are only band-aid solutions, and they will never be true solutions until we address the root cause of all problems: the need to correct our egoistic human nature—the corrupted attitude that wishes to enjoy for self-benefit at others’ and nature’s expense—to its altruistic opposite, similar to the altruistic force of nature.
If in the past we thought that “Love your neighbor as yourself” was a nice slogan, then in a world that is becoming increasingly interconnected and interdependent, it will become increasingly revealed as the only code of relationships that can save the boat we are all in from sinking.
Therefore, we would be wise to add to all the mechanisms that shape human consciousness, such as education, culture, and the media, content that will progress us toward a new perception of relationships, ones that are integral, connected, and complementary. Already from childhood there must be preparation toward correctly functioning future connection with partners, and toward building a family. This is the overall social picture, and it is important to give it expression in courses and guidance that deal with fertility, pregnancy, and birth.
Fertility is a matter that lies at the very heart of creation. Broadly speaking, the beginning of pregnancy is determined according to a harmonious connection between the masculine and the feminine force at the foundation of nature, at a very high degree. If today, humanity has several fertility problems, it means that there is no systemic balance between such forces.
Our ability to influence this balance depends first on improving relations between us, that is, on shifting from egoism to complementary and mutuality, from receiving everything solely for ourselves to giving to others and to society, from hatred to love. In such a way, we will compel the masculine giving force and the female receiving force to enter into harmony that will ease fertilization for us all. Why? It is because nature is an integral system, and changes at the level of human relationships, i.e., changes at the level of human desire and thought, bring about changes in connections between cells, i.e., in the lower bodily level.
Future parents will also need to know that their personal fertility, and later also the well-being of the fetus, depend not only on themselves but on their surroundings, which ultimately means everything that is happening in the world. The mother and the father are not the only ones who influence the course of events for the fetus, but all the forces of desire and thought that people activate are influencing the fetus. If the couple aspires to improve their own situation, they must fill that network with positive charges on their part, and contribute to the development of this awareness among all human beings.
The integral approach to education explains how to do this. It teaches the structure of the natural network, our place within it, human nature, the nature of the world, the general direction of development, and the point where we have choice. This integral education method includes, among other things, workshops, discussions, exercises, and various challenges, and it becomes implemented in a group framework.
The following is an example of an exercise that can be implemented in such a framework for couples who are preparing for a future family.
Exercise: Draw a Better World for Yourselves
As future parents, imagine how good it would be if our society were organized better, similar to a womb that envelops the baby who is about to be born to you. Here they are, about to leave the “temporary apartment” in which are they currently staying in safety, and what awaits them outside? Will they thank you for bringing them into such a world?
Try to think how you would feel if the society around you were a warm, supportive, and encouraging society, that it is a society with a comfortable atmosphere in which it is possible to grow, blossom, and develop limitlessly.
Certainly, this is not the reality of our lives today. Nevertheless, it is worthwhile for us to make an effort to draw this perfect picture in our imagination. Try to hold on to it as much as possible. In our conversations, we should express our desire that this indeed will happen: that people will harmoniously connect, that every single person will merit a life of comfort, safety, happiness, and enjoy a good attitude that prevails throughout society.
This is a practical exercise for the benefit of your fetus. It is worthwhile for you to think about this as much as possible, and to aspire to see a better, more harmonious and peaceful world before your eyes, a world that will become a place that is good to live in.
Couples, and people in general, who think about such ideas, exercising and internalizing them, introduce many positive forces into the network. Accordingly, group learning and practice instill a newfound calmness and balance in the participants, heal their systems, and they positively influence fertility, pregnancy, birth, and the construction of the future family.
Based on “New Life 97 – Pregnancy and Childbirth: Preparation” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.